http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/ Fertilicare is an online infertility support forum dedicated to the care and support of individuals struggling through the trials of not being able to conceive without medical intervention. en Fri, 10 Sep 2010 02:57:42 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/images/misc/rss.png http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/ http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12525-Can-we-please-get-our-Chatbox-back&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:19:48 GMT I really miss our chatbox, is there anyway we can get it back? I really miss our chatbox, is there anyway we can get it back? ]]> The Lounge Soetie http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12525-Can-we-please-get-our-Chatbox-back http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12524-Vanishing-pregnancy-Help-needed-for-friend&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 15:18:33 GMT There's a tea lady from my mom's bowls club. Had an early miscarriage, then no AF. Went to a private gynae and he said not pg and prescribed hormone to induce AF. This lady was not so sure and did not take meds and later saw our local GP, who is a very good doc. He said she was 5 months pregnant. Not sure how he dated this, must have done a scan?

Then at her check up at the local clinic the nurse says that baby did not feel like the size of a 6 month fetus and thought it was a bit small. PG lady says she can feel movement. So sent to our local hospital maternity dept for a scan to date pregnancy.

Doc cant find baby! She had to drink lots of water to fill bladder then they rescanned and still says there is nothing in her uterus.

What is going on? She has been told to go back in a weeks time to see a different doc.

Ever hear of something like this? ]]> Ally123 http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12524-Vanishing-pregnancy-Help-needed-for-friend http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12523-Last-3days-in-2ww&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 14:28:50 GMT Hi girls I am in my last 4sleeps in my 2WW, and its just 4more sleeps until Mondays test. I am going nuts and I guess no explanations are necessary... Hi girls
I am in my last 4sleeps in my 2WW, and its just 4more sleeps until Mondays test. I am going nuts and I guess no explanations are necessary here. Today I just lay in bed til 1pm doing intermittent sobbing cos I felt like AF was coming on. I have been having pains at my incision site in lower abdomen, and I am not sure if this is AF after the surgery or as DH says this is a healiing process after the surgery..
I am even afraid to go to the loo in case I see signs of AF.
Am I paranoid, is it the hormones or am I simply over-reacting.
On the positive side,I have so much catching up to do. Last Sat DH bought us our first Furrbaby. She's 7weeks and a purebred Labrador Retriever,creamy yellowish in colour, her name is Co-Co and she is simply georgeous. I've read on the forum that pets bring comfort so I am hoping to bond with her real soon. DH took her to the vet a few days ago to have a microchip inserted in case she's lost, and wen they gave her the shot to insert the chip, she yelped so pitifully and I just let loose a floodgate of tears. Poor DH, he didn't know whether to comfort me or poor Co-Co. On another postive front, work has been good. My station manager sent me home the day after I returned to work, and asked me to return a few days after the results are out. I tried to insist being @ wk is better but she says that she feels that so much of time,emotions,relationships have gone into this process and I should have no regrets at the end of this journey no matte which way it goes.
I realised that I am fortunate to have this allowance so I am trying to count all the positives and not focus on AF, but of course at this stage of the 2WW u all know what an impossible task that ism
Hugs to all ]]> The TTC Tea Room BridgetteM http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12523-Last-3days-in-2ww http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12522-Comparing-Vincent-Palotti-and-Cape-Fertility&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:16:52 GMT Hi all, Has anyone been to both VP and CFC? I am trying to get a good assessment of which is better to go to. To some it is really important that... Hi all,

Has anyone been to both VP and CFC? I am trying to get a good assessment of which is better to go to. To some it is really important that they see only their FS, but for me it is way more important that I am seen by SOMEONE who knows what they are dong down there to check me out if I need a scan urgently. I am terrible about scans - When I want one, I WANT ONE NOW!!!

Your thoughts on the pros and cons of both?

X! ]]> The TTC Tea Room MammaChloe http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12522-Comparing-Vincent-Palotti-and-Cape-Fertility http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12521-Pixie-22-weeks&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 12:06:35 GMT We went for our big 22 week assessment scan on the 7th - was great to watch our little Pixie moving around and feeling it at the same time. Made it... We went for our big 22 week assessment scan on the 7th - was great to watch our little Pixie moving around and feeling it at the same time. Made it all feel so real.
Al checked out well - we counted toe's, fingers, heart chambers etc.
The Dr event made a printout of the 'hamburger' with the word - Meisie next to it -- so no more keeping tags on -- 100% GIRL coming up -- she is a tiny bit on the petite side for her age - but Dr not worried.
Love feeling her move -- feet where pointing down during the scan and that is still where I feel most of the kicks.

My parents are making a long weekend of it and visiting from Kimberley and next week where of for a weeks holiday at Sun City - looking forward to that!! It was a little traumatic shopping for swimsuit. I am not that worried about the boepie but what a mission to find something that also fits this supersized boobs without braking the bank.
Preggie shorts are also hard to come by...

Great week to all ]]> KWA http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12521-Pixie-22-weeks http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12520-Spotting&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:55:39 GMT Do any of you know why we spot before AF? Is it a progesterone problem? Since I've had my m/c I see I start spotting on CD 24, but AF comes on CD28. My periods are also lighter (still the same length, but again more like spotting for the last few days) and I've had basically no pain. Now I'm not complaining about that, I just thought I'd mention it.

It just reminds me of years ago after my first lap, I suddenly had spotting a few days before AF would start and it actually took years to go away (I think it stopped around 5 years later)...

Everytime I spoke to my (then) FS about it, he just dismissed it as not important, later I was wondering if he might have made a mistake with the lap... All my other operations after that were not like that at all, except now again after my D & C. ]]> TTC VETS Tea Room Marion* http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12520-Spotting http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12519-REMINDER-Dangers-of-giving-out-personal-info&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:59:08 GMT Hi everyone...

I was sent this via email today and the message really made me think...Just made me remember that although unlikely, it's not impossible that there is a creep among us (even on this wonderful safe place!). So just be cautious regarding giving out any personal info on forums, blogs and networking sites like facebook!

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EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ ALL OF THIS... and HAVE YOUR CHILDREN READ IT TOO!

After tossing her books on the sofa, she decided to grab a snack and get on-line. She logged on under her screen name ByAngel213. She checked her Buddy List and saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:

ByAngel213:
Hi I'm glad you are on! I thought someone was following me home today. It was really weird!

GoTo123:
LOL You watch too much TV.. Why would someone be following you?
Don't you live in a safe neighborhood?

ByAngel213:
Of course I do. LOL I guess it was my imagination cuz' I didn't see anybody when I looked out.

GoTo123:
Unless you gave your name out on-line. You haven't done that have you?

ByAngel213:
Of course not. I'm not stupid you know.

GoTo123:
Did you have a softball game after school today?

ByAngel213:
Yes and we won!!

GoTo123:
That's great! Who did you play?

ByAngel213:
We played the Hornets. LOL. Their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees. LOL

GoTo123:
What is your team called?

ByAngel213:
We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really cool.

GoTo1 23:
Did you pitch?

ByAngel213:
No I play second base. I got to go. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don't want them mad at me. Bye!

GoTo123:
Catch you later.. Bye

Meanwhile... ....GoTo123 went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up, he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.

Her name: Shannon
Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985
Age: 13
State where she lived: North Carolina

Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall. Besides this information, he knew she lived in Canton because she had just told him. He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 p.m. every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team, and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the eighth grade at the Canton Junior High School . She had told him all this in the conversations they had on- line. He had enough information to find her now.

Shannon didn't tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ballpark that day. She didn't want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child Maybe if she had brothers and sisters, her parents wouldn't be so overprotective.

By Thursday, Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her.

Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back. She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely

He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him.. He didn't look scary and she quickly dismissed the sudden fear she had felt.

After the game, he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on the back of her shirt. He knew he had found her.

Quietly, he walked a safe distance behind her. It was only a few blocks to Shannon 's home, and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car.

Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon 's house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.

Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.

"Shannon, come here," her father called. He sounded upset and she couldn't imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa.

"Sit down," her father began, "this man has just told us a most interesting story about you."

Shannon sat back. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today!

"Do you know who I am, Shannon ?" the man asked.

"No," Shannon answered.

"I am a police officer and your online friend, GoTo123."

Shannon was stunned. "That's impossible! GoTo is a kid my age! He's 14. And he lives in Michigan !"

The man smiled. "I know I told you all that, but it wasn't true. You see, Shannon , there are people on-line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to injure kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to talk to people on-line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. You named the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze."

Shannon was stunned. "You mean you don't live in Michigan ?"

He laughed. "No, I live in Raleigh . It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn't it?"

She nodded.

"I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn't as lucky The guy found her and murdered her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line. The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line. Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you've learned a lesson from this and won't do it again.. Tell others about this so they will be safe too?"

"It's a promise!"

That night Shannon and her Dad and Mom all knelt down together and thanked God for protecting Shannon from what could have been a tragic situation. ]]> The Lounge xox http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12519-REMINDER-Dangers-of-giving-out-personal-info http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12518-Accupunture&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:21:42 GMT Hello Does anyone have details for me on a good trusted Accupunturest in the Southern Suburbs. Preverably close to Observatory. I believe there... Hello

Does anyone have details for me on a good trusted Accupunturest in the Southern Suburbs. Preverably close to Observatory. I believe there is someone in Pinelands but also hear that she is booked up long in advance.

Thank you any feedback will help with making the choice!

xx:) ]]> The TTC Tea Room Sage http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12518-Accupunture http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12517-Whoop-whoop&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 10:18:42 GMT OK so went for scan this morning to see growth of follies... and there are 3. 22mm / 19.5mm + 13.5mm so 2nd round of AI is set for monday morning... OK so went for scan this morning to see growth of follies... and there are 3. 22mm / 19.5mm + 13.5mm

so 2nd round of AI is set for monday morning at 9am. hoping the 13.5mm grows to 19mm. they say it grows 2mm a day? anyone know if this is true.

i'm remaining very positive for this round...hoping and praying i get BFP. so 25 September is my day of finding out. i

i was wondering... when i go in the mornings to fertility clinic ... i see so many ladies there... and i am so afriad to to ask if you are on fertilicare? anyone who was there this morning? ]]> The TTC Tea Room Christele http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12517-Whoop-whoop http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12516-Clomid-cycles&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:58:02 GMT Hello All Here is hoping you are all well. I jsut wanted to find out from experienced people if it would be ideal to do 3 rounds of clomid???What... Hello All

Here is hoping you are all well. I jsut wanted to find out from experienced people if it would be ideal to do 3 rounds of clomid???What i mean is i did one round of IUI which was negative. After that did i think what you call a timed cycle with clomid. We dont want to rush into another IUI round without really saving. I want to start another clomid cycle this month with no IUI though. Doc has been putting me on 50mg and i have not developed any cysts as yet. Please advise. ]]> The TTC Tea Room Ruvarashe http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12516-Clomid-cycles http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12515-Chopper&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:48:46 GMT I just saw the pics of your beautiful little girl! She is stunning! Congratulations Mommy, may she bring a mountain of joy, love and laughter to... I just saw the pics of your beautiful little girl! She is stunning! Congratulations Mommy, may she bring a mountain of joy, love and laughter to you and DH's lifes! :)

Ps How are you finding the motherhood joyride? ;) ]]> Adoption/Foster Care Tea Room Natashja http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12515-Chopper http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12514-Update-9W3D-scan&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:24:20 GMT Hi we are so happy DH and me baby is growing strong and moving around. 23.7mm today!:) I am moving on to my Gyni now and will have my FAS scan at... Hi we are so happy DH and me baby is growing strong and moving around. 23.7mm today!:)
I am moving on to my Gyni now and will have my FAS scan at kingsbery in 4 weeks. I will really miss my FS Dr. Le Roux he was really so, so nice.

Love to all, B ]]> bitsydee http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12514-Update-9W3D-scan http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12513-DE-update&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 09:15:55 GMT Ok so we are on our way, our Angel donor started yesterday. I scanned today and Dr V said my lining is looking beautiful .... i said a shame he... Ok so we are on our way, our Angel donor started yesterday. I scanned today and Dr V said my lining is looking beautiful .... i said a shame he couldn't say that about my ovaries ... anyway all is set for ER some time next week. How exciting... i'll br pregnant with twins before we know it :p

In the mean time this week we are off on a weekend to Vic Falls - woo weeeeeee always wanted to go! ]]> TTC VETS Tea Room Skyra http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12513-DE-update http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12512-11DP-Ovidrel-...&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 08:39:57 GMT Hi all....so I am 11 days post ovidrel and 9DPOvulation....the cramping and back ache seems to have eased up thank goodness.... I seem to be... Hi all....so I am 11 days post ovidrel and 9DPOvulation....the cramping and back ache seems to have eased up thank goodness....

I seem to be having more frequent dizzy spells/headaches/nausea (waves) - is this still due to the ovidrel? could it still be in my system? i am thinking it could be due to my eyesight but whats weird is that when i wear my specs it eases up a bit but its still a nagging nausea's feeling....

Any insight please? ]]> The TTC Tea Room Brazen http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12512-11DP-Ovidrel-... http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12511-Monday...Come-amp-Gone...NOW-WE-WAIT!&goto=newpost Thu, 09 Sep 2010 08:07:59 GMT Monday morning – Took that long drive through to P.E (not really that long) but when you have 2 little ones in the back seat competing for “the... Monday morning – Took that long drive through to P.E (not really that long) but when you have 2 little ones in the back seat competing for “the loudest scream” and an adult male (my husband), pulling ridiculous faces at me to amuse himself, as well as singing along to the most outdated annoying songs……IT’S A LONG DRIVE!!!!!! Mixed emotions throughout the day. We finally got to see Dr Botha at 4:30pm – appointment was for 3:15, but you know how Drs are. We must have looked completely daft sitting in the waiting room with a 6 & 9 year old……I did get a few weird glances! Ha ha 
It seems as though my cyst “inflates” and deflates as it gets closer to period time every month. Dr Botha was EXTREMELY thorough and I can honestly say, I have never met such a fantastic Doctor. Not just Gynae, but Doctor FULL STOP. He explained everything in detail to both of us. The children even sat there and added their 2 cents worth lol fact is, there is no quick fix here. I have a cyst and he is confident that it is not cancerous. Thank You Jesus! It is operable and Dr Botha wants to do it as soon as next week. He can’t tell me how bad the Endometriosis really is until he can see what’s going on inside. SO, all of that is fixable……HOWEVER…..The way I was sterilized – which was news to me- is the same way every woman is sterilized DURING her Caesar. He says I have had the “most final” form of sterilization done. Showed me diagrams etc – It’s the most difficult sterilization to reverse AND I will be more prone to an Ectopic pregnancy. The real catch is, I go into theatre to have my cyst removed and only once he has done that, will he be able to see how severe the damage is to my tubes. If it is too bad, he is not even going to attempt a sterilization reversal. He says it is a waste of money if my tubes are not “repairable.”
So I will be going into theatre and I wont know until I am awake, whether or not I am all fixed up. I will however, be cyst free and my Endometriosis will be taken care of. Is that enough for me….? I’m scared and confused. What happens if I come out and he couldn’t repair them? That’s really it for us if that is the case. We discussed IVF with him but with it being R30 000 per cycle, there is just no way. I have 3 children I could spend that money on and for me personally, that would be a selfish choice to make. With only a 40% chance of it working- I don’t have 30 grand for a “Maybe” – my husband agrees. Its not to say it wouldn’t be money well spent “if” it worked but I have to be sensible here.
I told Dr Botha quite openly, If he does what he can, God will do the rest IF that is the will for our lives. I believe God helps those who help themselves. God knows MY boundaries as far as money goes. He knows how much I can withstand emotionally, so whichever way this goes, I know its going to be HIS will at the end of the day and I shall have no choice but to accept it. It really is that simple because I don’t want my will for my life – I only want His Will!
He knows the desires of my heart, He knows how this consumes me. If it is not meant to be, then I know God will replace this desire with another! For right now, I’m just going to pray about it. That’s all I can do. Especially considering the quote I have been given.
R27 000 TWENTY SEVEN THOUSAND RAND!
We don’t have R27 000. We have big decisions to make. Right now, I wait. This is going to take a miracle  until then, Moms and moms 2 be, thank you so much for your support and comments, you’ve been awesome!!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxx ]]> The Secondary Infertility Tea Room Suskia http://www.fertilicare.org/forum/showthread.php?12511-Monday...Come-amp-Gone...NOW-WE-WAIT!